META-CEO Communication-Seeing Resolution through Evolution

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The qualities that make a CEO a powerful leader, sometimes get in the way of effectively communicating with ones closest colleagues.  Case in point, Christine Walhberg, CEO of Fullright Inc., who was leading her company into the most profitable year in their last decade.  Yet, president, John Worth, was ready to resign.  Why?  Christine and John weren’t effectively communicating and John was feeling stressful, disconnected and misunderstood. They were both aware, too much time was spent between them attempting to resolve the divide in their understanding and connection.

It was at that point that META consulting was called in.  Initially, I spent 20 minutes interviewing Christine and then John individually.  It was clear to me, they were ready to go beyond how they had ever communicated with each other and frankly with themselves.  From my 40-years as a pioneer in the creative process, I know first hand what can seem like negative stressful tension, may be instead, creative tension-an evolutionary force.

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Christine’s stress, when viewed from lower levels of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, (above diagram) seemed to come from the realm of “Esteem”.  Her communication demanded respect, admiration and value. She was hard on herself when she perceived she didn’t deliver that quality of connection with John.  So it was stressful for her.  From a META perspective, in the realm of “Self Actualization” (the top tier of the diagram),  this stress was creative tension.  The creative tension between Christine and John sought resolution through evolution.  Christine was called to evolve her leadership by becoming more mindful and more creative.  She needed to trust her intuition more fully.

Through our work together, she began to take time everyday to meditate. She developed a daily creative practice.  She learned to pay more attention to her intuition in her daily work life.

After 3 months, Christine found her relationship to John had evolved.  The creative tension had moved them both into dialogues that were centered in the realm of “Self-actualization” more than “Esteem” and “Belonging”. In fact, since this META realm  is beyond words and cognitive understanding, the ocean of feeling between them had evolved from tsunami-like waters to a more glassy surface which made it possible to run Fullright, Inc. much more smoothly.  Stress and Creative Tension can seem the same, but resolve themselves differently when worked through “Self Actualization”, a META perspective.

Beyond Generous in Mandalay, Myanmar

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What would you call someone who would give you the shirt off his back, even if it was a favorite shirt, just because ?   I call it beyond generous...  In my case, Mr. Win gave me the handles off the front door to his house. After traveling by horse-cart to the ancient ruins of Ava, in Mandalay,  I told him I wanted to find a pair of old rustic handles for my new meditation garden in California.  He took me to many antique shops in the late afternoon and we found nothing.

Mr. Win then made a long call on his cell phone.  On the drive back to my hotel, he asked if we could stop at his home, where he lived with his sister and parents.  “It would only take a minute, he insisted.” His sister greeted me with 2 rosewood hand-carved handles fresh off their front door. Mr. Win, beaming brightly, refused any money for the handles.  “Please send me a photo when they are on your meditation gates”, he requested as the one thing he asked for in return.  Moments after receiving his gift, I took  the photograph of him in his modest home. A home now without front door handles.

In the case of Mr. Win, his gift goes beyond generosity and inspires me everyday as I open my meditation gates.

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Can you trust the Unknown?

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  Do you feel the call to both survive and thrive in our rapidly changing world? Or will fear take you down?  Here is a favorite passage, credited to the Hopi Nation, on the importance of trusting the Unknown. I capitalize “Unknown” because it’s the most sacred word we can “live into” in the 21 century.

This passage shares the secrets of surviving the upcoming changes. We are “gathering ourselves” as we ride the sweet spot of change, moment to moment, in the river of Life with an Unknown destination.

A Message Of Hope from the Hopi Nation
To my fellow swimmers,
There is a river flowing now very fast.
It is so great and swift that there are those
who will be afraid.
They will try to hold on to the shore.
They will feel that they are being torn
apart and will suffer greatly.
Know that the river has its destination.
The elders say we must let go of the shore,
push off into the middle of the river, keep
our eyes open and our heads above the water.
And I say,  “See who is in there with you and
celebrate!”
At this time in history we are to take
nothing personally, least of all ourselves.
For the moment that we do, our spiritual
growth and journey comes to a halt.
The time of the lone wolf is over.
Gather yourselves!
Banish the word struggle from your vocabulary.
All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner
and in celebration.
WE ARE THE ONES
WE HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR.
Oraibi, Arizona
Hopi Nation

Your comments and thoughts are appreciated. Indeed, “at this time in history we are to take nothing personally, least of all ourselves”.  I celebrate you, my fellow swimmer!

Take a retreat!

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imageRenewal is essential to life, nature stops and restores itself. Why is it so difficult for most successful people to do so?

I am in my third hour  of a 48-hour retreat at favorite local spiritual retreat center.     In my art/ writing  studio  this morning,  I packed up my manuscript for my upcoming book, (see photo to the left)  and took a 30 minute drive to Questhaven  retreat center and then unpacked things on the dining room table of my cottage  (see photo to the right).

What would it take for you to give yourself a retreat? For a month, a weekend, a day or an hour. Just do it.

I am eating the silence.  Food for the soul indeed. Here’s a photo I took 20 minutes ago on the labyrinth:

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“Life beginning Over Again” Renew!

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“And so with the sunshine and the great bursts of leaves growing on the trees, just as things grow in fast movies, I had that familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer.”

F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

We start the journey of “life beginning over again” with stopping and renewing ourselves. One of the biggest Continue reading